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Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Converting to Islam for Marriage: Chander Mohan alias Chand Mohammed faces Ulema's ire


1. The son of Haryana's seasoned politician Bhajan Lal decided to convert to Islam. The conversion was apparently not because of his strong faith but for getting married for the second time.

So Chander Mohan became Chand Mohammed and his lady love, lawyer & former Asstt Advocate General, Anuradha Bali appeared as Fiza. It has all the making of a Bollywood potboiler and even goes beyond. Chander Mohan was mysteriously missing for a month and suddenly appeared on TV screen.

Ensconced on the rear seat of a car with a lady wearing goggles, the Haryana Deputy Chief Minister said that he was 'studying Islam' and had faith in the religion. In the same breath when asked about future, he said 'sab bhagwan ke haath mein hai'. He realised it and later used the word 'Allah'. He kept mentioning how much he loved the lady and was ready to forsake anything for her.

Though it is abuse of the system once again. Just like actor Dharmendra who married Hema Malini and many others in public life who become a Muslim just to get married for the second time and avoid legal hassles. As per Hindu law, one can't marry when he is already married

No wonder, Muslims and Hindus are equally against it. Ulema have condemned it. The influential Ludhiana Jama Masjid's Shahi Imam Habibur Rahman Sani Ludhianvi has issued a fatwa against him and termed the wedlock as 'fraud'. He has asked for arrest of the politician.

In the past there have been several occasions when politicians and celebrities married twice or even thrice. Union Minister Ram Vilas Paswan illegally keeps two wives. Many others simply marry at a temple and don't bothe about consequences or legalising the matrimony at any cost. The marriage may be unethical but who cares about ethics.

Had he not married and just kept Anuradha Bali alias Fiza around and been moving with her, he wouldn't have faced any problem. A case in point is the episode involving Amrinder Singh, the former Punjab CM, who kept the Pakistani lady journo with him but there was no major issue about it.

Ishq ka Bhoot

4. However, it was perhaps the conversion (to Islam, more shocking) and a bit of drama in this episode which led to the sacking. Chander Mohan, at least, deserves praise on one count. He risked his job and also lost the post. These days nobody wants to lose the chair, even if it is a corporator's post, let alone Deputy CM. Chandra Mohan's father, the veteran Bhajan Lal, has disowned his son and the political career of the man seems in jeopardy.

5. Ishq. He said he had enough of money and other things. And was now concerned about other things like love that would give him satisfaction. The happiness index does differ from person to person. Seasoned politicians hardly care about 'promises' and keep having flings. He, at least, married and paid a price. That's the only silverlining out of the episode. Of course, TV channels got interesting drama to run for a couple of days.

26 comments:

jai said...

Not all ulemas have condemned: yesterday I saw on TV Ludhiana Jama Masjid's Shahi Imam Habibur Rahman Sani Ludhianvi condemning the act and issuing the fatwa, but it was followed by onother Ulema/Maulvi praising him. in his words "Bahut accha kiya, iske pahele bi bahoot log musalmaan hue hain aur Insha-Allaha, aage bhi log musalmaan honge". I want to know when Islam considers all the religions equal then why are people so keen to convert others into Islam, is it because they consider Islam superior over other faiths?

jai said...

Darul-uloom Deoband supports Chander Mohan's second marriage

Muzaffarnagar, Dec 8 (PTI) Stripped off his post and disowned by the family, beleaguered former deputy Chief Minister of Haryana Chander Mohan, has found support from the Islamic seminary, Darul-uloom Deoband, which justifying the leader's conversion to Islam said his marriage is legal under Shariat law.
"Nikah (marriage) after converting to Islam is legal under Shariat law," deputy incharge of Fatwa department of Islamic seminary Darul-uloom Deoband Mufti Ahsan Kasmi told PTI.

Echoing a similar view, another cleric of the seminary Mufti Khurshid Alem said, "as nikah was performed after both the persons (Chander Mohan and his second wife Anuradha) converted, it is justified." "In case of conversion, faith of a man or woman changing his religion should not be questioned," member of Shariat court and president of Imam Organisation of UP Mufti Zulfikar said. PTI

Anser Azim said...

I saw that news with this "hoor-langoor" combination. Muhtarima was trying to impress with her Hinglish-English and bollywood combination and to me she looks beautiful from outside!!. Spicy news, though "aur bhi gham hain zamane mein". "Mian-beevee razi to kya kare ga qaazi". In Hinduism concept of polygamy and polyandry is there. Raja Dashrath Ji, father of Ram Chandraji, had four wives and Ms Dropdi was married to four brothers. I believe Hindu marriage law should have that flexibility. But i will give this "langoor" a B for standing up and telling the world about his involvement with this woman and giving respect to the relationship. I believe thats why there is a provision under islamic laws for these kind of situations.
I am not sure whats the definition of being a muslim as belief in One God is enough that ones fate will be decided by Him on the day of Judgement...These fatwas are meaningless in my opinion if Mr Chand Mohammad believes in one God/Allah/Bhagwan. Who is one, has no partners, is unique and does not beget and begotten.
best
anser azim

a fan said...

Actually, one of two things which i like in BJP's policy is Uniform Civil Code. But no government has even taken a step towards formulation of the same.

Everybody is busy only in divisive politics. And here are people who exploit these loopholes...

Election wala anon... said...

yes...there must be uniform civil code...so that a religion is not misused....and as per the love and all....thr is surely more thn wht meets the eyes...the story of love and sacrifice is surely bullshit.

SmartAleck said...

Why should the law or any of us for that matter care how many wives somebody has? If the wives themselves are okay with it, what is our problem? So long as the second wife knows what she is getting into, I fail to see why the state ought to have a problem. If the first wife does not like it, she can always divorce the guy. Bigamy and polygamy should be legalized for everyone - Hindu, Muslim, satan/tree/earth/voodoo worshipper. Period.

Dr Prabhat Tandon said...

धर्म के पति आस्था दिल से होती है न कि सिर्फ़ मतलब के लिये । हवस को पूरा करने के लिये मजहब का सहारा लेना किसी भी धर्म विशेष को कंलकित करना है । अधिक अच्छा होता कि ऐसे लोगों को मुस्लिम समुदाय बाहर का रास्ता दिखाता !

Shan said...

While I abhor pretending to have a new faith in order to marry, I also agree with this (jai): "In case of conversion, faith of a man or woman changing his religion should not be questioned," member of Shariat court and president of Imam Organisation of UP Mufti Zulfikar said.

It's extremely important that Muslims recognize that the power of Allah and the influence of the Qu'ran is greater than we can imagine. If someone says they are sincere, then we should accept their word. The penalty for a lie will then be on them, but it is not our place to doubt them, since there is incredible potential for any person to see and believe the Shahadah. If interest in some woman is the initial motivator for a person to open the holy book, then so be it. It is not unusual in any circumstance for a person who wants to find Allah to find Allah. Usually, the passing curiosity of converts stems from something trivial. Many people opened the Qu'ran after 9/11 to see the "evil" of Islam and instead found beauty. Their conversion is still valid and we mustn't question their intent.


As a complete coincidence, the word verification captcha text for my comment says "bride".

Anonymous said...

I've heard umpteen number of times how some opportunist Hindus salivate at the mention of polygamy in Islam. Such people are a disgrace for any community (whether Hinduism/Islam). Having said that I'd like to ask people like Anser Azim to do a proper research before coming up with such whacky observations. People like him should know that mythology is not exactly the same as religion and if it is so then child marriage should also be a part of Islam since the Prophet married an 8 year old himself. Situations were/are different and if you can't differentiate between them it's better to keep quiet.

Pinku said...

hey!!!

What i want to know is....what does the first wife have to say on this?

How can she hang on to a man who doesnt want her at all and instead would actually go to the extent of chnaging his religion inorder to marry another.

doesnt that woman have any self respect at all?

Uniform civil code needs to come and real soon...

Anonymous said...

this is free world.Everyone is free to speak ,act and have a choice of his/her own.
This is called society and social rules are not governed by law making authorities.Last but not least this is neither the first nor last incident of its kind.
So just look it an individuals decision using religion to fight with law which prevents him to do so.

Anonymous said...

Chander Mohan has taken a safest rotue out to be in a relation he wants to be...our hindu law were written in the oblivion of jungles and deliver unjustice even in 21st centruary.
so i do not think that if some body want to live his life the way he want should be hamplered by few piece of papers.
coverting to Islam is not an issue.. being happy is the foremost...what problem hindus have and what problem muslim cleric have ..they are getting theri share of limelight beside few journalist getting spicy story of the day.. let them live in love.

Anser Azim said...

Anonymous: Here is the law that was written fourteen years ago. Age is not mentioned in this law, however the right has been given to woman to decide about her grrom. It is Islamic tradition that a wedding not commence until both parties are fit for sexual relations. Prophet lived most of his life with his first wife who was 17 years older than him till her death. The age of Aisha is said to be from 9 to 18 at the tiem of marraige was the daughter of the firts Khalifa and no ill feelings from her parents or from her and she is known as the mother of all faithful. Coming back to your question ofmythology/religion I do not know how you can separate the two. My point was not hurting feelings of any but mentioned it as polygamy was part of our Indian culture, centuturies ago.

Anser Azim said...

Sorry imissed this with my post. http://www.witness-pioneer.org/vil/Books/SH_SL/islamic_law_regarding_marriage.htm

Anser Azim said...

Pinku: Here is the answer to your querry to an extent. Part 13 (ii) of this article suggests the right of Mr Chandra Mohammads first wife. I ended up reading Hindu/Muslim marriage law enshrined in our constitution.
http://www.sudhirlaw.com/HMA55.htm
here in the west marriages are becoming obsolete. people like to live together but avoid marriages!!
Same sex marriage was an election issue but not the more than 50% single parent issue!!!

indscribe said...

@ Jai bhai: Thanks for informing. Surely there are enough people in India to speak for everybody :)

@ A fan: Uniform Civil Code is too ideal situation. Right now we are soon going to have a personal law for Sikhs, which last heard was ready to be drafted. And then communities in India have been observing certain rites and practices for centuries. So the moment something like that is raked up, it is felt an unnecessary intrusion though there can be a healthy discussion among all religious gurus at the official level and certain progress can be achieved in this direction.

@ Electionwala Anon bhai: It does sound hollow but still, I would say, he did lose the chair. May be there was certain other compulsion that forced him to marry.

@Smart Aleck: hmm...lemme think

@Doctor Sahab: Most Muslim scholars have condemned it. Fatwas issued but they are fatwas as you know 'opinions'. But there is no way someone can be declared to be outside the religion even if we know he did manipulation for furthering his interest. After all, people tend to abuse any system for their own advantage.

@Pinku Ji: I think the TV channels didn't approach her first wife for reaction or I missed it!

Thank you Anon, Anser Sb

Ye manzilen !! said...

To keep that kind of beauty and brain at home...I dont think it was that of a bad idea.....

Well, let Mullah and Pundit decide on the trivial issues..I would support those that eek true love...by all means neccessay...

adal said...

Conversion of one's faith must necessarily be due to one'e conviction in the new faith.It must not be a "facilitating factor for fulfilment of one's fanciful desires.Just because one's present faith does not allow him to have a second wife, he circumvents that by becoming a Muslim and his lady love also becomes a Muslim.And they have their "nikah" duly processed!In 90% of such cases, they revert back to their faith!Such incidents should be stopped at at the earliest.

Zakir said...

if it is his belief that made him change is religion, nothing can be said but i don't think that is the case. just to get married to his lady luv, getting converted to islam, is definitely an insult to the religion.

a fan said...

Personal law for Sikhs?!
wonder how long we can have this secular pseudosecularism...

Anser Azim said...

Uniform civil code is not the solution. I will stick to the old hindu marriage law and Muslim personal laws as is in the constitution. Ijtehad and felxibility are some of the suggestions so that this kind of situation does not arise. I believe the new marriage laws are hardly fifity years old and i see people have lost faith in those laws and are shying away from marriage. Now civil unionsebtween same sex are being discussed around the world on shaky grounds.
In my opinion the new marriage laws are not tested for long enough and i see fissure in those laws and are being misused. But there are issues in Islamic marriages that needs attention and needs ijtehaad, changes to accomodate demands of 21st century.
A fatwa is long due to completely abolish "dowry" from the bride side
and be branded haram that is being practiced amongst muslims. though the law of the land prohibits it. Old age marriages and polygamy should have magistrial approval etc.I believe Mr chand's first marraige is annuled since his first wife has not converted and anyrelationship becomes haraam.

Bahu Virupaksha said...

Anyone reading my posts would have realised that I am an inverterate enemy of dynastic politics and the cynical corruption of the Indian political class. Having said that I must add that the manner in which the son of Bajan Lal, Shri Chnder Mohan, the sacked Deputy Chief Minister of Haryana was treated is not only shocking and barbaric, but also violative of the spirit of the freedom of choice so precious to all of us. The politicians of Tamil Nadu have at the last count 3 wedded wives and scores of concubines and they find a respectable place in Sonia's (s)table and why should Shri Chander Mohan be treated differently.

First things first. The statement of Shri Bajhan Lal disowing his son for having married his lover Anuradha Bali suggets that he has the right to decide for his son. Shri Chander Mohan was holding the responsible position of the Deputy CM of Haryana after having won the elections from his constituency 4 times. What does it mean to "disown" his son. Further he stated that the responsibility for the upbringing of his 2 chldren from the first wife, Seema, will rest with the "family". What law give Bajhan Lal the authority to take children away from the parents. I wish the ever alert mahilaa organisations take note of the patriarchical argument made by shri Bajhan Lal, treating children as if they were mere pieces of realestate. I am not defending Shri Chander Mohan, I am only pointing out that he has a right to live out his life with a woman he loves, for whom he gave up his political position. I am reminded of Edward VIII who abdicated the throne in order to marry Mrs Simpson. To my mind Shri Chander Mohan has shown spine and I laud him for it.

It is obvious that the marrige with Seema had broken down and that she has the support of the patriarch. Chander Mohan need not have taken the dubious route to matrimony through a bogus conversion to Islam a la Dharmendar and Hema Malini. The Hindu Marriage Act does not mandate against a second marriage provided the wife does not complain. This is is the provision exploited by Shri Karunanidhi and scores of dravidian politicians who prectice polygamy with the elan of their Chola rulers.

I saw both of them on TV last evening and it appeared that both seemed very happy together. Anuradha Bali was the Assistant Attoney General of Haryana and from the interaction on TV she seemed a higly articulate ans strong minded woman, If Shri Chander Mohan has married her out of love I think no one has any right to complain, least of all Bajhan Lal.

The divorce laws are extremely antiquated and I think if one cannot live in a state of marrige he or she should be allowed to opt out. Shri Chander Mohan has only done that.

I wish the newly weds the very best.

Rizwana said...

May Allah guide everyone.

Anonymous said...

I dont think its bad idea.
if he look for legal prospectus . then it will take a lot of time.

First legal should not take time much time like this. some modification is required marriage law.

1. its totally wastage of time. What happen he become hindu or muslim after all GOD is God. LOVE is also God.
Every people violet the different type of rules. What happen he convert his religion for marriage.
I don’t think its easy decision to take like this.

2. He did like that he can easily manage both family responsibility.
3. When he loves someone how comes it possible he can live with that lady which he dont like.
At least after this decision they can live there lives. else they will not be happy whole life.
4. When a wife known his husband loves some other lady she will not accept his husband from heart.
5.We are looking only one part that they have married but we dont know what is the actual reason behind this. after they are quite mature they have idea about what happen if they married.

6. We can accept live in relation but why we don’t accept second marriage.....?????????? It’s surprising

7.50% in marriage life extra affair has found. but some daring person have this power. Love is blind I know but in Love most of the people they dont have power like this..........

Most of marriage just they adjust they don’t have power to take decision like this.
If you know his/her wife/husband true love some one else. Then you have two options.

1. Just continue their marriage with guilty, comments, without love. or

2. Separate from his/her wife/husband take financial support and live your life.
In that case
Your husband/wife will be happy.
becoz you have loved him/her. At least they are happy.
You will feel relax in that case.

and finical you will be strong and you have way to accept someone else.

Else this is your decision this is matter of your life......

this is not matter of Chader Mohan only.It can be your matter..........

I believe in that just jiyo or jine do. and really understand what is love what is commitment.......

I want to say that people who want separate from their marriage life that just manage your life partner financial independence first.

if you are not able to manage live with your old family but at least they are financial independent..

of course she/ he is your responsibility. ……………………..

Government, People, Laws and Politician have spoiled their (Chander Mohan & second wife) Finical status.

I think this is not right way to express their anger…

After all they are not murder, terrorist, rapist or big crime.

Why Government, People, Laws and Politician are not look for this matter.

This is matter of how they want to spend their life.


I want to say more …… but ……..

Anonymous said...

I dont think its bad idea.
if he look for legal prospectus . then it will take a lot of time.

First legal should not take time much time like this. some modification is required marriage law.

1. its totally wastage of time. What happen he become hindu or muslim after all GOD is God. LOVE is also God.
Every people violet the different type of rules. What happen he convert his religion for marriage.
I don’t think its easy decision to take like this.

2. He did like that he can easily manage both family responsibility.
3. When he loves someone how comes it possible he can live with that lady which he dont like.
At least after this decision they can live there lives. else they will not be happy whole life.
4. When a wife known his husband loves some other lady she will not accept his husband from heart.
5.We are looking only one part that they have married but we dont know what is the actual reason behind this. after they are quite mature they have idea about what happen if they married.

6. We can accept live in relation but why we don’t accept second marriage.....?????????? It’s surprising

7.50% in marriage life extra affair has found. but some daring person have this power. Love is blind I know but in Love most of the people they dont have power like this..........

Most of marriage just they adjust they don’t have power to take decision like this.
If you know his/her wife/husband true love some one else. Then you have two options.

1. Just continue their marriage with guilty, comments, without love. or

2. Separate from his/her wife/husband take financial support and live your life.
In that case
Your husband/wife will be happy.
becoz you have loved him/her. At least they are happy.
You will feel relax in that case.

and finical you will be strong and you have way to accept someone else.

Else this is your decision this is matter of your life......

this is not matter of Chader Mohan only.It can be your matter..........

I believe in that just jiyo or jine do. and really understand what is love what is commitment.......

I want to say that people who want separate from their marriage life that just manage your life partner financial independence first.

if you are not able to manage live with your old family but at least they are financial independent..

of course she/ he is your responsibility. ……………………..

Government, People, Laws and Politician have spoiled their (Chander Mohan & second wife) Finical status.

I think this is not right way to express their anger…

After all they are not murder, terrorist, rapist or big crime.

Why Government, People, Laws and Politician are not look for this matter.

This is matter of how they want to spend their life.


I want to say more …… but ……..

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